It was brought to my awareness recently that in my rush to create more for myself, I was turning my life into a series of chores that need to get done. But as we know, it’s the journey, not the destination. Achieving a goal may bring us happiness but only temporarily. It’s the satisfaction that comes from accomplishments along the way that bring us fulfillment. But we don’t always appreciate these sometimes menial tasks as small accomplishments towards our desires. We lose sight of why we’re doing what we’re doing- the bigger picture, and life starts to lack it’s lustre a little bit more each time. It’s Saturday night and I’m at home writing this post. I could easily think of all the other ways I could be having fun, or I could feel genuinely excited that I’m choosing to stay home and write because it’s a small victory towards creating a life that inspire others to fulfil their highest potential as I fulfil my own. Playing Janga with pals, while fun, doesn’t quite have that same impact.
I’m currently taking a course on Tantra that requires me to do daily exercises. My initial response was, ugh, homework and reluctantly bullying and coaxing myself into doing the exercises, like forcing myself to meditate is really going to bring me any closer to enlightenment. But how often do we do this in life! We may dread working out to achieve our ideal bodies, or we’ll be excited to get a new project or client until we have to do the work. It doesn’t make any sense! We want these things, why aren’t we more excited to do the tasks that will get us there?
Consider this. We have the freedom and sovereignty to desire anything- any dream, and the power to make it happen for ourselves. Feel into this. This is incredibly exciting!
It’s easy to focus on the fear, the bumps we’ll hit along the way, the ways we’ve gotten hurt and disappointed in the past. Struggles will always show up because this existence is one of duality. But if we only focus on the bad, then this is all we’ll see.
We need to focus on the big picture. Focus on our visions with complete gratitude that we get to have these visions and that they’re just on the other side of coming true for us. Fully savour this experience. We’re getting exactly what we want and we’re making it happen for ourselves. This is powerful.
Sometimes we need to remember there’s delayed gratification, where the benefit from doing something will come tenfold when we hold out a little longer. Or, if we do try something and decide we don’t actually want it, then we have the power to change course. How empowering that we get to make these choices. We’re in control of our own lives. Depression stems from feeling out of control, and being productive rather than procrastinating can be difficult when we’ve lost focus. But instead of accepting that everything feels like a drag, let’s intend everything we do as a step towards what we desire, and feel the excitement that accompanies that.
My Spiritual path began in early 2010-ish when I was suffering from health issues. Specifically, gallbladder attacks. I couldn’t eat anything without having an attack. I was under 100 lbs and it was recommended I have my gallbladder removed. Personally, I don’t do well with people telling me to remove my organs so I took it as a challenge to heal myself. It started with changing my diet.
I experimented with the elimination diet. This is where you eliminate EVERYTHING (basically, emphasis for drama because seriously it’s hard as f*ck) and slowly reintroduce foods back into your diet to see what affects you. I ended up not reintroducing certain foods because being on a gluten free vegan organic diet was the most supportive for me at this time. By eating this way, my body was able to take a break and detox a lifetimes worth of toxins.
Eating a very basic, clean diet allowed my Self to focus on other things. In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the bottom section that all other sections depend on is Psychological Needs: food, water, warmth, rest. In order for us to have safety, love and relationships, esteem and self-actualization, we need to have our basic needs met. Eating a healthy diet is part of fulfilling our basic needs so that we can gradually grow and expand into more complex beings.
Similarly, the root chakra at the base of the spine represents survival. When our bodies aren’t fully nourished nutritionally and is being hounded with toxins and junk food, then the body is in survival mode. It isn’t able to move beyond doing repair work to express it’s full potential. Because all the chakras above depend on the health of the chakra below, we need to create a healthy environment for our Selves to grow and expand.
When my diet changed I started to develop a connection and a relationship with Spirit. I grew up Catholic with my mom telling me each night before bed in her heavy Italian accent, “say your prayers, Erika!” *kiss* However, every Sunday we would go to church and come home to my dad’s tyranny. I still remember the moment that I told God, “this is bullshit you’re not listening and I’m not talking to you anymore.” It was heartbreaking. And for over ten years I was very lonely, empty, and terrified having gone through everything that I had to go through alone.
But when my connection with Spirit started to develop again, I realized that what I rejected wasn’t God, it was religion. Spirit had been there for me all along, like a parent, watching me sleep through a nightmare and trying to wake me up. The cells in our body hold onto old memories and patterns. By detoxing, I started to flush out emotional, mental and psychological baggage as well. Everything is connected. I had taken “the red pill” and I started to wake up.
So here I am 6-ish years later with a healthy body, including a gallbladder that is healed and in tack, and an incredible spiritual maturity- just read my blog 😉 As I’ve been traveling down the rabbit hole exploring life from new perspectives, having existential crises and navigating the underworld, I, ironically, didn’t think to develop my mind at the level that I brought my body and especially my spirit. So now I question, how can optimal physical health impact my mental focus?
The mind is what we use to act. It’s how we focus our energy into creating what we want in this world. The mind is what’s responsible for envisioning our dreams and setting out to make them happen. In Tony Robbin’s “Awaken The Giant Within,” he challenges us to do a mind detox where you are aware of your thoughts the entire day and only stay focused on the positive. I couldn’t even make it a day. So I’ve met with both a nutritionist and a physical trainer, and as I strengthen my physical body further to reach its optimal health and challenge myself to a kidney flush, I’m going to do this mind detox again and see how the mental and physical relate.
As well as exercise and nutrition, other ways to nourish and fulfill yourself physically include:
– Dry brushing
– Acuballs and acupuncture mats
– Organic body creams, essential oils and makeup
– Filtered alkaline water, I use the Akai machine
– Light daily stretching first thing in the morning, I do kundalini yoga to activate the chakras
– Restorative yoga at the end of the day
– Getting silk pillowcases and Egyptian Cotton sheets with a high thread count
– Being intimate with yourself or with someone you’re comfortable and safe with
– Snuggling an animal and enjoying their softness
– Speaking with your cells, thanking them for all that they do and sending them some love each time you shower
– Cup of tea
– Breathing exercises, just take a deep breath right now
– Trip to the spa!
– Be out in the sunshine
– Floatation tank
Do your best to enjoy being in your body. You wouldn’t be here without her. Allow and accept her as she is, and then take the initiative to change what you don’t like. The power is in your hands. We are all capable of much more than we think we are. The first step in achieving happiness and fulfillment in life is proper self care.
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