Our Power Lies in Our Ability to Make Decisions~

Our Power Lies in Our Ability to Make Decisions~

We often acknowledge that we’re giving our power away, but what does this actually mean?

It is giving away our power to make decisions.

During a difficult time, the universe taught me to let go of control, to surrender as a humble warrior. In doing so I learned how to trust the flow of life, but without control I made myself vulnerable to hitting any obstacle that would cross my path.

Now I’m being taught the next step: That while in the flowy waters of life, the power to make decisions is my ability to steer my ship in the direction I want. This is collaboration with Spirit.

See sometimes, I would see an iceberg coming straight ahead, and because somebody else would insist that it wasn’t there, I would discard my knowing and pretend that I didn’t see it either. Then, I would suffer the repercussions and get upset at people for not caring enough about me to steer my ship for me. But the wheel was in my hands all along, and I had the choice, but I chose not to act.

What stopped me from making these decisions was the pressure I would put on myself to make the right one. But without making any, you stay stuck in the same-same every day or you get hit by not moving out of the way.

Decisions empower creation. Every choice- leaving a partner, moving away, replacing a mattress, going to Africa- begins with a decision. It’s incredibly empowering. It’s how we steer. And when we make these decisions from our hearts, life unfolds for us beautifully. This is how we create. This is where it begins.

So I must add! If there’s something you’re sitting on, fucking do it. Go for it. Or decide not to and move on because the wishy-washy state really sucks.

xoxo Erika ♥ lol

When The Future Isn’t Certain

The other day I became hyper aware of the duality that’s existing in my mind at all times. While most people see happy, optimistic Erika, there’s also my shadow side that’s incredibly self critical, doubtful, and careless. The majority of the time I feel pulled by both sides– both screaming at me, telling me what I should do, that I’ll amount to nothing, but also keep going you’re doing great and it’ll all work out! It’s overwhelming and nauseating. So I’ll numb myself out- shut it off so it’s finally quiet. But that’s not a solution, it’s an escape, and isn’t serving me at all.

According to Tantric philosophy, all pain, suffering and sickness comes from duality. The solution then is to pick a side. Henry Ford said: “‘Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.’”

I can’t believe I’m about to make a sports reference- but by entertaining both my healthy and self defeating thoughts, I am playing for both teams. It’s confusing as hell because imagine watching a soccer match where the players suddenly switch teams to shoot on their own nets. It would be chaos! You’d probably get bored and leave. And I feel that way. It becomes so chaotic in my mind that I numb out and become careless out of survival- opposite of my natural, deeply empathic and considerate way of being.

We need to choose a side. It takes self awareness, to notice our thoughts, our self criticism, doubts, worries, fears and say no, I’m not playing for that team. Because if we don’t choose a side, we’ll never win. So when we wake up in the morning and we don’t want to move, or when we’re looking at the workout bag and soo lazy, and when our thoughts are screaming at us that none of this is worth the effort, remember to play for the team that you’ve committed to playing for. Over time, the strength of this team will grow and we’ll start to reach milestones of success that the other team always told us were not possible.

Choose a team soccer match photo